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What to say to someone struggling with mental health

Expert advice from Chloe Ward on the difficult issue of what to say to a friend who is struggling with their mental health has appeared in a number of publications. 

Chloe is a Technician at Smart TMS, a leading mental health clinic specialising in Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation Therapy with a treatment centre in Dublin.

Chloe’s advice on the difficult and awkward issue of how to chat to someone with mental health issues has appeared in a string of publications including:

  • You magazine, the popular Mail on Sunday supplement
  • Balance magazine
  • FrUK magazine

The following suggested things to avoid saying and things to say have been compiled from all the above articles.

The Things Not to Say And Why:

Sometimes the things we say can hinder rather than help the progress of someone who is suffering with mental health. These are sayings to avoid:

  1. Get yourself together
  2. I get it, I have bad days too
  3. You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself
  4. What have you got to be down about, you have everything a person could want
  5. Everything is going to be fine
  6. There is always someone who is worse off

Best Things To Say

  1. Are you okay?
  2. Is there anything I can do to help?
  3. Tell me about how you’re feeling.
  4. Give me a call if you ever need to chat – day or night.
  5. You are not in this alone.

Best Questions to Ask

  • Normal things such as, ‘Do you want to go for a coffee?’ or ‘Did you see that show last night?’.
  • What Can I Do?
  • How are you feeling today?
  • I have noticed you are not yourself and I want to know how you are feeling
  • Do you need to talk? I’m here if so.

Talking through how and you are feeling can sometimes make the person feel a bit better in the short term, but it also helps them to know they’re not alone and have your support.

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The articles featuring Chloe’s expert advice may be found at:

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Pembroke House,
28/32 Pembroke Street Upper,
Dublin 2,

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