Understanding the warning signs is important when preventing suicide.
Our Dublin-based practitioner, Ailish, is specially trained to recognise these warning signs and help others to help their loved ones. She is passionate about helping the patients she treats to see the good in life, rather than focusing on the bad.
In 2018, over 6,213 people in the UK and Ireland took their own life, according to the National Suicide Research Foundation. In comparison, 5,821 people committed suicide in 2017. Clearly, despite years of research and increased resources, suicide rates are still climbing.
Although suicide can affect anyone, there are certain groups which are more at risk. For example, these include:
- Men over the age of 35
- Armed forces personnel
- Emergency services personnel
- People struggling with addiction
- Members of the LGBTQ+ community
- People with physical illnesses
- People who are homeless
“It can be tricky to tell if a person is thinking about suicide. Whilst someone may seem happy, it’s difficult to know what’s going on inside their head. If you watch closely, you may see your loved one displaying warning signs. For instance, they may;
- Give away their belongings
- Withdraw from school, work or family
- Drink more alcohol than usual
- Use drugs
- Self harm
- Display unusual behaviours
“Your loved one could also make comments that are invitations for you to step in to help them. For example, they might say;
- “I just can’t take it anymore”
- “No one needs me, I’m useless”
- “All of my problems will be gone soon”
- “Things will never get better””
How can you help?
Although some people may want help, others may not. Some people may even feel that they aren’t worth your help or support.
It’s important to trust your instincts when you suspect someone you know is thinking about suicide. After all, if they aren’t, they will appreciate you considering their feelings. As long as you are respectful, kind and patient, you are opening the door for your loved one to speak to you.
Ailish’s top tips for talking to your loved one about your suspicions include;
- Stay calm
- Be direct and confident
- Tell the person why you’re worried
- Tell the person you are there to help; they are not alone
You may like to say, “I’m worried that you’ve started drinking more than usual. Are you having any suicidal thoughts at all?” or “I know you feel like you’re a burden on our family and I’m concerned that you feel this way. Are you thinking of harming yourself?”.
If you’re not comfortable having this conversation yourself, talk through your concerns with someone who is. You can contact a medical professional or a counsellor or, perhaps, a family member or close friend. It’s important that you don’t wait to see if your suspicions are correct.
Here at Smart TMS, we aren’t an emergency service. Therefore, we’ll always direct you to your nearest crisis team if you feel like you can’t carry on.
If you feel like you should talk to someone but don’t feel as though you are going to commit suicide, we’d recommend speaking to the Samaritans by calling 116123. They are available to speak to 365 days a year, 24 hours a day.
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